Netflix shows to binge watch while you breastfeed your little one

It’s always been my plan to quit work when I decide to have children, that’s why I resigned when I found out that I was pregnant. I really want to be hands on with taking care of my baby for at least the first two years, if possible. Luckily, I got the privilege to do so when I moved to Biliran to live with my husband in their family’s resort. Since I’m far away, I can’t just meet up with friends and likewise, they can’t easily visit to chat and catch up. So aside from my husband, Netflix has been my best friend.

Below are my personal picks of Netflix shows that I enjoyed watching while breastfeeding my daughter. These are not ranked, just a simple quick list.

TRAVELERS

This one really got me hooked. Some episodes I even watched a third time. Too bad it looks like the show’s not going to renew for Season 4. The story is about, well yes, time traveling; and what I really liked about it is it was done in a very futuristic way minus a tacky time machine (you can consider that old tech now). Check it out and imagine what if their kind of time travel happens in the future. Travelers is able to present a lot of global issues we experience today in a very creative and sci-fi way. It sends a reminder of how the people of the future will blame the 21st century for seriously damaging the world. The suspense is neatly done, it never failed to surprise me. I fell in love with the characters in a way that I felt like I am already part of their lives and Season 3 just kind of left me hanging. Can I see more of them please? I’m not really giving away parts of the story. No spoilers. I will let Imdb give you the synopsis here

HOUSE OF CARDS

I only watched until Season 5, because sadly they had to remove Frank Underwood‘s character, played by actor Kevin Spacey, and he’s basically the heart of the whole story. Though my mistake was Googling what to expect in Season 6. I never gave it a chance, because I got affected by the bad reviews. The thing about Frank Underwood is he’s evil but he speaks the dirty, dark truth, so you don’t really know whether to hate him, admire him, or respect him for his no-bullshit, ambitious personality.  House of Cards follows the story of Frank Underwood as a congressman playing politics, the dirtiest it can possibly get, to become the president of the United States. Watching the series reminded me of real world politics, and it just disgusted me how real politicians can actually do what the characters in the series do. The show successfully captures attention and curiosity with the suspense, intrigues, deceit, and conspiracies it presents. You’ll keep wanting to find out what’s going to happen next. More information in Imdb here

LOVE, DEATH & ROBOTS

It’s like an animated Black Mirror, just much shorter. The different animations are just so impressive and amazing. It’s like futuristic art. It’s like watching a painting while it triggers all these emotions and thoughts. All of the short animated films in this series did not fail to tease my thoughts. Since the stories only take a few minutes, it’s a quick binge watch, and at the end you’ll feel like asking for more. Like ‘Hey Pixar, can you do an extended version?’ More about Love, Death & Robots here.

SUITS

It’s about days in the lives of corporate lawyers. Very, very good pilot episode. It’s like it had me at hello. The good thing about series with an office setting is it’s something I can relate to. It’s a window to the familiar (but, no, I’m not a lawyer). Since it’s a show, so you really just expect things to turn out well at the end of the episode. I enjoy watching it, because it’s an alternate universe where the perfect is the norm, and the bad things just happen so things don’t get boring. I’m so jealous of Mike Ross‘ super memory skills like it’s some sort of mutant power. And everything about Harvey Specter is just so smooth. Actually, I’m still watching this series, and like the House of Cards, I’m not sure whether I’ll watch till the end. As far as I know Mike Ross’ character also left the show when her love interest Rachel Zane, played by now Princess Meghan Markle, wife of Prince Harry, got married and quit the show. Check out Suits on Imdb.

You know how they say books will take you to places. Netflix does that job now. So stay entertained while you stay at home to take care of your newborn baby. Pick the show of your interest or try the shows I’ve mentioned if you still have not seen them. I would also love to hear what you think about these shows or if you have recommendations, just leave a comment below. 

Adjusting to becoming a mom, can it get easier?

“It feels like my life is now just all about the baby and my partner.”

“I also have a career that I put on hold.”

“It’s hard not being able to earn my own money.”

“Why is my husband not taking care of our baby even during his time off at work?”

“I’m tired too.”

“I’m just sad. I miss my old life.”

These were some of the sentiments my fellow first time moms said during our chats yesterday. These statements are so relatable, at one point in time you and I may have felt and said the same thing. It feels unfair, but there’s also a feeling of guilt because it’s as if when a mother starts thinking about herself then she loves her child less.

There’s the challenge of finding the perfect balance between trying to fulfill your personal needs and wants and giving everything for your child. It’s a question of what things will be prioritized over the other. Everyday you keep thinking of how to make it work.

I’m still figuring it out myself, but allow me to share with you three things I have been doing to help ease the motherhood discomfort.

OWN IT! I AM NOW A MOM.

During my pregnancy and right after giving birth, it felt like a part of me faded away. Not wanting to let go of who I was added difficulty to the adjustment to motherhood. I missed being with my single friends and colleagues. I missed going out and having fun any day, up till we felt like it. It’s like there’s this illusion that soon I can still go back to exactly how things were before my baby came. But having a baby means the priorities have changed. The lifestyle will change. I am now responsible for another living person who needs to depend on me for many years starting the moment she was conceived. The way I felt changed, the moment I have accepted my new self. It’s like graduating in life. It doesn’t mean doing entirely the opposite of everything before the baby came. It just meant meeting for lunch with friends instead of dinner, or waiting for the baby to sleep before drinking a bottle or two of beer. It’s still me, but a newer version, a better one.

HAVE REAL AND HONEST CONVERSATIONS WITH YOUR LOVED ONES AND FRIENDS.

Doing this is actually still more for yourself than for them. The more you talk about what you are experiencing with complete honesty, the easier it is becoming part of your new normal. We are so quick to answer, “I’m fine.” It’s  a super short sentence that doesn’t actually speak truth. Motherhood is not a walk in the park, and it’s okay to discuss with other people how difficult it is. Which parts of it are challenging? What I’ve noticed when talking to other moms, is that we’ve got situations that may be a problem for one and just easy peasy for the other. Discussing it with each other is the way we’re able to give and get support, because then we can share ideas and let other moms know that they’re not alone and there are things that can be done. It’s the same with husbands. Be patient in starting honest conversations. Acknowledge that they share the experience too, but from a different point of view. While we probably tease each other of who’s the kid’s favorite parent, it doesn’t really have to be a competition. Our husbands are our best and top pick for teammate. Let them know that.

MOMMY, TAKE BABY STEPS. DON’T GIVE UP, YOU’LL LEARN TO “WALK” SOON.

I really make an effort to not overthink things. I am used to setting personal targets and doing regular self-evaluation. I don’t think it’s working well for my transition to motherhood because it makes me set expectations that I’m not able to fulfill. I just end up getting disappointed. Instead of counting what I am not able to do, I try to focus on what I am able to do. And then I try again tomorrow. This is exactly the reason why I decided to start blogging because this is my way of trying to do something with my new self, and understanding who I will be as a mom.

All of these are related to what is called matrescence, meaning the process of becoming a mother. We’re actually encouraged to learn more about it, talk about it, and understand that it’s a normal life stage for a woman who’s transitioning to motherhood. More articles are easily accessible online when you Google matrescence. I first encountered the term through this Ted Talk video, then decided to do some research about it. It’s actually enlightening and it helps to know.