Why I’m happy I got married around my 30s

When I was still in my teens, I said my goal was to be married in my mid-twenties. My girl friends said the same thing. Reaching 25 seemed like a long way to go from back then. Now I am 30 years old. I got married and gave birth last year 2018. I’m glad it happened later. Not only did my mama say the timing was just right, I’m also sure it would have been a lot more challenging for my younger self to adjust to. I can only imagine. It doesn’t mean it’s a walk in the park for me now. I just know that I’m better equipped for this life thanks to a few more years of staying single. 

I’M NOW AN ADULT

I never forgot the idea that the human brain becomes fully developed by age 25. I remember conversations in the past about keeping good attitudes and changing bad ones before you hit that age, otherwise it becomes who you are when you get old. The saying ‘can’t teach old dogs new tricks’ made sense. Getting married around my 30s is great because at least I think I’ve already established who I am as an individual. I’m past the phase of trying to figure out my personality, my beliefs, how I speak, and how I act. I already have a strong foundation. My husband can be sure of what type of person he married and he’s going to live with for the rest of his life. 

I CAN BE A BETTER WIFE

I learned from my mistakes and from others’. I keep in mind the not-to-dos, what-to-dos, what-to-says, how-to-says. Since I’m now older, I got better at not thinking only about myself or what others think of me. I’m done with having relationships based on impressions and I understand deeper relationships that are based on friendship, trust, and respect. 

FROM WHAT IFS TO WHAT’S NEXT

I have 10 years of professional experience. Since I’m a job hopper, I was able to make the most of it. I was able to travel as much as I wanted to as many places I can go to both for leisure and work. I spent nights going out and drinking with friends as often as I could, until shortly before I got married I started to feel like I’m getting old for it. It’s all good memories and no regrets. Now the question I ask is what to do next in my new life with my own family. 

I CAN BE A GOOD MOTHER

I can never claim to be perfect. But I’m confident that at this age I am more capable of raising a child. I’ve grown smarter and wiser thanks to my experiences, so that I can make good decisions concerning my baby and give her proper guidance. I’m making it my goal to raise my children to be good citizens who have the right values and can contribute to the betterment of our society. 

I’m happy time was able to prepare me to becoming a wife and mother, and whatever life is going to throw at me next. It’s a continuous learning experience. Now at 30, for me, it’s just a good time to start.